Man’s Survival Guide to Relationship Breakup — the Art of Self-Compassion
When was the last time you gave yourself the gift of self-compassion? What do I mean by the gift of self-compassion? To me, self-compassion is self-kindness, self-empathy, self-patience and self-appreciation. If we are kind, patient and compassionate towards others in difficulty, why can’t we embrace those wonderful qualities for ourselves? Self-compassion is not about beating ourselves up or being self-reprimanding or harsh towards ourselves. Self-compassion is the awareness and recognition that you have done your very best and put your best foot forward. You may not have seen or achieved yet your desired results or success. The main thing is that you have given your very best despite the circumstances and that is sufficient.
You have worked tirelessly during the week at home or at work burning the candles at both ends. You have ticked off your goals, accomplished your “to-do” lists, achieved your set targets and possibly helped others to achieve their goals. You arrive at the weekend and you are feeling exhausted. You lack the strength to do the housework or cook the weekend meals. You feel too weak to Whatsapp or phone your family and friends. You want to stay on the couch all weekend. You suddenly start to feel bad and guilty. I encourage you right now to give yourself the gift of self-compassion. What does the gift of self-compassion look like to you? What does self-compassion mean to you? To me, self-compassion is self-care and taking out time out for yourself to recharge and allowing yourself AND giving yourself permission to put aside the demands of life to enjoy the simple pleasantries of life. This could be sitting in a park, playing your favourite song in the background or watching your favourite sport. It could be congratulating yourself for the great work you have done in the past few days — even though you have projects left unfinished.
The art of self-compassion is standing your ground against demanding people and allowing yourself to take time out to stop and relax. The art of self-compassion is a positive recognition of our limitations. After all, we are human beings and not robotic machines, aren’t we?
Tell me in the comments below — how are you going to create the art of self-compassion today? Allow yourself to receive this gift. I am looking forward to reading your comments and cheering you on. You deserve that gift of self-compassion today.
