Rising Above Rejection — Part Three
Rejection can cause deep-seated hurt and pain. There may be individuals around us, carrying internal wounds and memories of being rejected as a child. These adult individuals may feel that they are unwanted, which may in turn cause them to subconsciously withdraw emotionally from other people. These same individuals may have a constant need for affection and acceptance and may seek approval just to be validated by the other person. Their need for validation from the “other” person, can become an addiction. Validation from the “other” person has now has become their mission and quick-fix. These same individuals (who were rejected as children), may grow up to be “people-pleasers” for fear of being rejected again.
If you are the person who wants to break free from being a ‘people-pleaser’, and are somebody who yearns for approval and validation from others, there is hope. You can achieve break-through. Remember that the real issue is with the person who rejected you. The “other” person’s rejection of you, speaks more about their personal character. Let’s reflect together on the following questions. Could the other person’s rejection of you, be their own way of masking their manipulative or emotionally abusive behavior? Could the “other” person’s rejection of you, tie back to their own insecurity, or unresolved issues and their own lack of self-awareness? Could that “other” person subconsciously be rejecting a part of themselves? Could the other person’s rejection of you, tie back to their own failure or unwillingness to take responsibility for themselves? It is all too easy for individuals to blame each other, as a way of copping out from taking responsibility. In my opinion, simply blaming someone else for something is a sign of weakness. I am aware that you may disagree with this point as the act of blaming is dependent on the context or circumstance. Generally speaking, it is a noble, liberating and honorable thing for an individual to own responsibility or to take 100% responsibility for the outcome of their lives.
I am not aware and may never be aware of the circumstances why you were rejected. I just want to let you know that the rejection is not a reflection of you. Today is the day to set yourself free and unshackle yourself from the ramifications that came from the “other” person’s rejection of you . You didn’t cause that person to reject you — even if they convinced you that you were to blame. My question to you, is do you still need to be in touch with the person who rejected you? If your answer to this question is yes, then my next question is why? Why is the “other persons” validation or approval of you, so important for you? Can not this approval or validation come from deep within yourself? What is getting in the way of you, not valuing yourself and embracing the unique, gifted, intelligent, awesome, and amazing human being that God created you to be?
I want you to look into the mirror today and tell yourself out loud, that you are beautifully, fearfully, and wonderfully made by God. Say to yourself how you are equipped with ingenious skills and abilities, that will bring blessings on this earth.
My friend, you are highly valued by God, who loves you unconditionally. In God’s eyes, you sparkle on this earth like jewels in a crown. It’s true…
