The Blessing in the Break-up — Part One
A break-up from a romantic relationship can leave us reeling with a mixture of shock, disbelief confusion and hurt. Were we blind-sided? Did we see the split coming? Were the signs there and we just chose to overlook it?
As we mourn, process and come to terms with the loss of the relationship, it is normal for our grief to change into anger, fury and frustration. Anger against the loss, fury towards the break-up and frustration against the romantic partner and possibly anger towards ourselves? We struggle to find meaning around the break-up and may bump into a wall of overwhelm and helplessness.
Over a period of time, our feelings transition into acceptance. We accept that our loved one is not coming back or the relationship is irretrievable. We recognise that there will be no reconciliation. We take small baby steps to move on with our lives.
However, wounding, painful and traumatic a romantic split may be, there are small blessings in the break-up if we look deep enough.
‘What do you mean by blessings in the break-up’? I hear you cry.
‘ How dare you say that’? I hear you shout
‘But you don’t know what so and so did and how so and so treated me?’ I hear you say.
I hear you….
Tell me about your blessings in the break-up? How did the split change you? Tell me about your journey of self-discovery and growth? What positive things did you learn about yourself? How did your perspective of life change as a result of the split? What can you share with others who faced a similar break up as you?
We will be exploring the “blessing in the break-up” in future blogs.
