What you are going through is not a sign of weakness.
Imagine us sitting together in a quiet place, away from the hustle and bustle of life. We’ve chatted about all sorts of things, work, family and friends. We’ve probably talked about where we’re going on our next holiday and even shared a few laughs over some anecdotes. Imagine there is a moment of silence between us. We’re friends, right? We’ve always been transparent and honest with each other? Haven’t we? So now, we’re laying down our masks and we’re being real with one another. There is no judgement. We are letting go of the shame and we’re removing the stigma ok?
My gentle question to you is — have you ever reached a time in your life, where pain seems overwhelming and unbearable? where you’ve had feelings of worthlessness or hopelessness? Perhaps you are battling constant negative thoughts? Maybe you are struggling to deal with ways to resolve your problems? Do you sometimes have the feeling that everyone would be better off without you?
I just want you to know that you are not alone. Many people have gone through what you’re experiencing and found help. It’s okay to talk about what you are facing. I also wanted you to know that talking about your emotional distress can help alleviate some of the feelings you’re experiencing? What you are going through is not a weakness. There is nothing to feel guilty about. You can get better. Help is available.
Remember you are not alone. A number of mental health research have recommended four things that you can do now when you have thoughts of suicide or self-harm. I commend and salute you my reader friend because you are already doing most of these steps now.
The first step is to talk to someone you trust about how you feel, which is what we’re already doing now?
The second step is to talk to a health worker, such as a doctor or mental health professional, or a counsellor or social worker. Friend, this will make such a difference in your life. You know that I am all about encouraging men to seek help. Remember, #no shame,#no stigma.
The third step is to join a support group. What support groups are you a part of? What steps will you take to find one this month?
Promise me that you’ll do the fourth step when no one is there for you. Promise?? I didn’t hear you. Wherever you are Say I promise. If you think you’re in immediate danger of harming yourself, contact your emergency services or a crisis line or Samaritans on 116 123 (24/7, 365 days a year). Remember we’re letting go of the shame and stigma -#noshame, #nostigma.
Choose Life, my friend.
“I came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance (to the full, till it overflows)” — John 10:10
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